{"id":957,"date":"2016-08-15T13:47:53","date_gmt":"2016-08-15T19:17:53","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/stephaniegolden.net\/writing_blog\/?p=957"},"modified":"2017-01-16T16:48:59","modified_gmt":"2017-01-16T22:18:59","slug":"self-sacrificing-women-free-tipsheet","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/stephaniegolden.net\/writing_blog\/self-sacrificing-women-free-tipsheet\/","title":{"rendered":"Self-sacrificing women: free tipsheet for you"},"content":{"rendered":"<h3><span style=\"color: #075207;\"><em><strong>An issue that hasn\u2019t gone away<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/h3>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft wp-image-845 size-medium\" src=\"http:\/\/stephaniegolden.net\/writing_blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/04\/Mermaid-no-more-final-188x300.jpg\" alt=\"Breaking women's culture of self-sacrifice\" width=\"188\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"http:\/\/stephaniegolden.net\/writing_blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/04\/Mermaid-no-more-final-188x300.jpg 188w, http:\/\/stephaniegolden.net\/writing_blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/04\/Mermaid-no-more-final-768x1228.jpg 768w, http:\/\/stephaniegolden.net\/writing_blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/04\/Mermaid-no-more-final-640x1024.jpg 640w, http:\/\/stephaniegolden.net\/writing_blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2011\/04\/Mermaid-no-more-final.jpg 1563w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 188px) 100vw, 188px\" \/>How many men would eat food they don&#8217;t like because their wife likes it? Or wear clothes they don&#8217;t like because she wants them to look a certain way? Women do these things all the time. I did them with my former husband.<\/p>\n<p>In my book <a href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/dp\/B004GUSHDM\/?tag=stephaniegold-20\" target=\"_blank\"><em>Slaying the Mermaid: Women and the Culture of Sacrifice,<\/em><\/a> which uses Andersen\u2019s Little Mermaid as an image of the ultimate self-sacrificing woman, I investigated why so many women feel obliged to put other people&#8217;s needs first\u2014even when they don\u2019t want to. I discovered that the self-sacrificing impulse comes from women&#8217;s history, not their nature.<\/p>\n<p>Recently a therapist contacted me to say that excessive self-sacrifice was a big problem for her clients, and I decided to revisit this subject. I did more research and reporting, and the result is a brief new ebook,<em> Mermaid No More: Breaking Women\u2019s Culture of Sacrifice,\u00a0 <\/em>available for preorder at 99\u00a2 at all ebook retailers (see sidebar) and in all formats.<\/p>\n<p><em>Mermaid No more <\/em>offers pragmatic, specific strategies for figuring out whether you too are a &#8220;modern mermaid&#8221; and for overcoming your own personal pull toward unhealthy self-sacrifice.<\/p>\n<p>In the meantime, you can preview it by downloading my <span style=\"color: #003300;\"><strong>free tipsheet <\/strong><\/span>(see sidebar). Most women are prone to unconscious, involuntary, self-defeating self-sacrifice, due to our training in what I call the \u201cculture of sacrifice.\u201d See if you recognize yourself in any of the indicators.<\/p>\n<p>And you can leave your own thoughts about self-sacrifice on the <em>Mermaid No More <\/em><a href=\"http:\/\/stephaniegolden.net\/writing_blog\/mermaid-no-more\/\" target=\"_blank\">web page<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>An issue that hasn\u2019t gone away How many men would eat food they don&#8217;t like because their wife likes it? Or wear clothes they don&#8217;t like because she wants them to look a certain way? Women do these things all the time. I did them with my former husband. In my book Slaying the Mermaid: Women and the Culture of Sacrifice, which uses Andersen\u2019s Little Mermaid as an image of the ultimate self-sacrificing woman, I investigated why so many women feel obliged to put other people&#8217;s needs first\u2014even when they don\u2019t want to. I discovered that the self-sacrificing impulse comes[&#8230;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[22,139,40],"tags":[150,148,141,13,149,153,154,151,152],"class_list":["post-957","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-inspiration","category-self-improvement","category-social-issues","tag-dysfunctional-relationships","tag-overgiving","tag-relationships","tag-self-sacrifice","tag-self-defeating-behavior","tag-self-help","tag-womens-personal-growth","tag-working-mother","tag-working-women"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/stephaniegolden.net\/writing_blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/957","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/stephaniegolden.net\/writing_blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/stephaniegolden.net\/writing_blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/stephaniegolden.net\/writing_blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/stephaniegolden.net\/writing_blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=957"}],"version-history":[{"count":8,"href":"http:\/\/stephaniegolden.net\/writing_blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/957\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1082,"href":"http:\/\/stephaniegolden.net\/writing_blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/957\/revisions\/1082"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/stephaniegolden.net\/writing_blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=957"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/stephaniegolden.net\/writing_blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=957"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/stephaniegolden.net\/writing_blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=957"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}